Friday, January 13, 2012

Breasts, juicy juicy breasts...

So there was a report, it was about breastfeeding, we all got enraged. Yes all of us, everyone..or maybe just me. Anyway the point was I was enraged. The report (widely reported in the media) seemed to say that breastfed babies were poor sleepers, miserable, cranky, and generally sadder babies than the chubby bundles of fun that sleep through and giggle like smiling cherubs when fed formula. No wonder there was rage; I’m almost a breastfeeding nazi! (I’m not but once on twitter someone listed me as such, I was sort of proud) anyway….I went off to track down the report itself since none of the media sources, not even the BBC, saw fit to link to it or reference it in anyway. Luckily the NHS website was more forthcoming and even helpfully pointed out the errors with the ‘study’…such as that the ‘study’ was not actually designed to study the difference between breastfed and formula fed babies at all, it was an aside from a larger study and that the study itself had only 300 participants, that the data was all subjective and no backgrounds were obtained for the babies…well go check see for yourselves(and a snippet below), it’s basically a pile of ‘maybes’ and ‘might haves’. No real concrete data at all.

"There are several additional points to make:

  • The researchers did not take into account other wider issues that might affect the chosen feeding method, mother/baby interactions and babies’ temperaments, such as whether the mothers were working, time spent with babies and feeding schedules.
  • The study relied on mothers to subjectively rate their babies’ temperaments. Such self-completed ratings could be influenced by other things, such as the mothers’ anxiety about breastfeeding.
  • The differences in temperament between breastfed and formula-fed babies as rated by the mothers appeared to be small. For example, the emotional instability score was 2.8 in the bottle-fed group and 3.0 in breastfed and mixed-fed babies. It is not possible to say whether these small score differences would have made appreciable differences in the day-to-day temperament of the babies.
  • Educational achievement of women who breastfed or mixed-fed their babies was higher, and how this might have influenced their scoring of temperament was not discussed by the authors.
  • It is not known whether the current method of feeding at three months represents a consistent pattern since birth or whether there have been changes. For example, a baby described as formula-fed at three months may have only just been switched to formula feeding and may have been exclusively breastfed up until then. Finally, as the researchers point out, this small study of mothers and babies in Cambridge may not be representative of UK mothers and babies generally."

But why were mothers bothered? If a study says that something may not be as good for your baby you won’t do it – you want the best or your baby. Best is a fed baby. A baby that grows and is happy. Breast or formula can do that, but mothers all want the best. This study seemed to imply that breast was actually inferior…or did it? It said that breastfed babies were more restless, formula fed babies slept more. Well I don’t know about you but after a huge meal of heavy to digest food I sleep well too! Often most of the afternoon, so having a belly full of heavy rich food makes you sleep…ok…

And babies that are breastfed cry more. Now this is the thing that made people sit up! Babies that cry are sad! Miserable! Poor little things! But most breastfeeding mums I know feed on demand. The babies need to inform mum when a new helping of grub is in order, and it might not be in four hours because, well it was easy to digest, it went quick and now “I’M HUNGRY!” and then they drink and are not hungry and can get on with being babies..watching the world, growing, communicating (often by crying “I want to touch the thing!” “why is the light bright” “I want a cuddle” “I want to be left alone” “I want a cuddle “I’M HUNGRY AGAIN!” ) so really is the crying bad? 

No! babies cry! Breastfed babies may (or may not – it’s a tiny, flawed study) cry more but that may be because they are communicating more! Because they are more awake, because they are not dozing with a tum full of formula!

So is formula bad? Of course not. Lots of babies grow up happily on formula, a mum may not be able to feed, may adopt, may have a tough birth, may have a busy job or a second child that is ill and needs her attention too, there are a million reasons a mum might not breastfeed (one reason I’m not a ‘breastfeeding nazi' and would never say anything to another about her choice unless she asked for advice) but should a woman choose not to breastfeed because of this study? NO! certainly not!

But the sad fact is that thousands of women every year are put off of breastfeeding, and your milk is nearly always the best thing for your baby. The reasons for not breastfeeding are usually fear, fear of exposure, fear of offending people, fear of being verbally abused, fear of not having enough milk, fear of not being able to do it, and an added fear that on top of all that it may be ‘bad’ for the baby is just awful!

Formula is not a poison and may suit you better, but don’t use it ‘to get a quiet night’ my own experience and that of many breastfeeding mums is that if you relax, if you are led by your baby, you can have plenty of sleep with breastfeeding (not all at night it's true!) and will often not get sleep with a formula fed baby…because (guess what) babies are all different. Babies are different and mums are different, babies that sleep may have mums that don’t worry, or mums that fuss more to get things right! who knows!?

You are the mum, you and your baby are a perfect match, and if you can, you should listen to what you, your baby and your family needs, then everyone can relax and be happy. They are only babies such a short time, enjoy them.




20 comments:

  1. There was a couple of things that occured to me when I read the article you refer to and you've covered them all.

    In addition though I was uncomfortable with the fact that the data was collected by asking mothers to fill a questionnaire. It occured to me that, due to the guilt that they may feel (which I might point out I don't think they should) formula feeding mothers may over egg the happiness of their baby.

    The only positive I could see was that it tried to quash the myth that women don't produce enough milk. This is the most common reason I hear for women stopping bf, because their babies ask for milk again so quickly. As you say this is totally natural & what needs to be highlighted is to just go with it and feed feed feed.


    Unfortunately I don't think this really shone through in the reporting. Spot on post.

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  2. My first baby. Second night in hospital. She was crying. The midwife (the MIDWIFE?!) took her off me. 'She's hungry!' she said, then marched away. After a moment or two, worried, confused, and tired, I went to find her. She was feeding my day old baby a bottle. I burst into tears. 'Don't!' I grabbed dd back. 'She's crying because she's hungry,' came the stern voice. I'd read you shouldn't give a bottle if you wanted to give yourself the very best chance of feeding your baby, and feeding my baby was all I wanted to do. I crawled back into bed feeling unsupported and lost, both dd and myself crying. Then an angel peered around the curtain. She sat on the end of my bed, rested her hand on my knee. 'I've had three babies,' she said. 'You are that little girl's perfect mother. You'll get there. Ignore them all. Do what feels right for you.' She is one of my all-time heroes and I don't even know her name.

    I'm not an expert, but if they've found babies cry more on the boob than the bottle, I would suspect there is also an element of wanting the boob/mum for comfort, peace and reassurance, too. As you say, babies don't just cry when they're hungry!

    Lovely post. Breastfeeding mums need all the encouragement they can get. It can be hard to start with, but I am in total agreement with you - it's worth it.

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    1. that is so sad ;-( I had a similar panic when my milk 'came in' at 5 days, boobs like rocks and poor dd couldn't latch, i was sobbing and stressed and everyone wanted to rush out and buy bottles and formula! I refused and luckily the midwives at the hospital were extremely helpful, got me and dd going again, and we never looked back. :-)

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  3. Your quick off the mark I was going to write a post but you say it all really.Why do the media promote breastfeeding as the best one month then refute the next?.

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    1. ooh do have a rant on your blog too! You can pop back and post a link here as a reply!!

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  4. I have only one thing to say...I love you.
    This is an amazing post.

    As a breastfeeding mum (almost breastfeeding Nazi I have to admit) I was so angry when this 'study' was released.
    I know 3 bottle fed babies who were/are fussy, short tempered, very loud criers. Infact cried most of the time. 2 were not very affectionate, 1 was.
    My two boys are breastfed, both calm, don't cry much or if they do a quick boob in the mouth or cuddle sorts/sorted them out quickly. Both very affectionate.
    I know another breastfed baby who cried a lot, was very clingy with his mum, not very confident and as a toddler is quite the same and infact can be quite violent. He also doesn't talk at all.
    I think the way they are fed has some part of how babies are but just AS BABIES.
    I think further behaviour, and affection, is down to parenting and the affection given as babies/children.

    As for being bad sleepers...all 6 babies I have mentioned had sleeping patterns that were all over the place.

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    1. aw shucks *blushes* thank you. It is so hard to be a mum with the media sniping at every turn isn't it!? Thanks for your comment, I agree parenting is much more than just feeding.

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  5. I decided not to breastfeed my three children, because well, it was just something I did not want to do. Yet, I would never tell someone not to breastfeed, it is the woman's choice what she wants to do. My eldest fully intends to breastfeed her first child when he/she comes, and that is perfectly fine with me.

    As for sleeping, all my kids slept well, and still do.

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    1. I expect the fact that you could feed how you chose helped you to be the best mother to your children. What a shame the media snipes and tries to constantly devide mothers. Parenting is hard enough with guilt, and wars against other parents.

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  6. I love your rant! I wonder where my son would fall within their 'study'...
    My son was fed.by bottle EXCLUSIVELY with breast-milk. As a preemie he missed out on learning to feed effectively, and had the added complication of severe tongue tie, which along with his general weakness,y flat nipples and boobs which had become accostomed to weeks of pumping power made traditional bf impossible. He was am Excellent.sleeper, very laid back and behavior wise a model baby. His sister was formula fed (tongue tie -if I knew then what I know now), fussy and clingy.
    Did the study take into account birth order? 2nd or subsequent children are often calmer. Perhaps due to mums more relaxed parenting, perhaps because they learn to "wait" from day 1.

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  7. Great post and What a load of rubbish that report is! I'm the eldest of six, all of them younger brothers that my Mum breastfed. It was a very natural and common sight in our house to see Mum with a baby attached to her boobs. I personally decided against breastfeeding my four kids...not sure why, it just never appealed to me and I never felt any pressure to feed either way. I must say I can not see any difference in sleep patterns, allergies, chubbiness, smiles or cochy coo's between my babies and my Mums. I dont think think either or is best and its purely down to the Mother. I can't believe that report has made the news and I hope it doesn't confuse new Mums.

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  8. There was an editor of a magazine couple of years back who wrote an article as stupis as this one. Im all for breast feeding aslong as mummy and baby are happy. My first dd took to it like a duck to water and at 8lb 3 at birth she was a hungry moo. My 2nd dd didnt, basically. I had no support (bar family but i needed professional) with a tiny 5lb baby who would latch sometimes but not others. In the end i had to bottle feed as i was so tired, sressed and sore. My boobs were so painful i spent most of my time crying. No way for a mum of 2 to be. More support from my health visitor would have been appreciated but she never seemed interested as it was my 2nd. Like im an expert. Both my dds are so different.

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  9. There was an editor of a magazine couple of years back who wrote an article as stupis as this one. Im all for breast feeding aslong as mummy and baby are happy. My first dd took to it like a duck to water and at 8lb 3 at birth she was a hungry moo. My 2nd dd didnt, basically. I had no support (bar family but i needed professional) with a tiny 5lb baby who would latch sometimes but not others. In the end i had to bottle feed as i was so tired, sressed and sore. My boobs were so painful i spent most of my time crying. No way for a mum of 2 to be. More support from my health visitor would have been appreciated but she never seemed interested as it was my 2nd. Like im an expert. Both my dds are so different.

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  10. The media is often just out to polarize and most of the time you can take these studies with a pinch of salt. You just do what you feel is right.
    My partner fully intended to breast feed but after a very difficult and traumatic birth it just wasn't happening so we switched to formula. Our little man did not sleep well at all for the first 6 months but after a ton of love & affection from the pair of us we now have a 16 month old that sleeps well and is an absolute

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  11. ...joy.
    It's not all about the food, I think it's about everything they go through and experience at that age.

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  12. When I saw this in the media I had pretty much the same reaction to you, thought it was pretty bloody stupid and ignored it. But interesting to see what the NHS thinks of it and a bit more analysis than my 'thats bollocks'. It's an absolute joke how the media created massive headlines from a seemingly very un-conclusive study.

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  13. This post is wonderful, mostly because I completely agree with everything you said! It really riles me that stories get reported based on incomplete or misleading research, it just spreads panic and can have a huge impact on people's choices. Just think of all the new mums who had babies around the time of that report, mums who might still have been trying to decide what to do, mums who hadn't slept well for 2 months because of carrying the weight of the baby and were desperate for a rest... Some of those mums could have made a decision based on headlines and not made the best choice for their baby. I've breastfed all 3 of my boys, for various lengths of time, the first was for a couple of months and the last for 6 months. They were all content babies and rarely cried, mostly because I used the signals they gave me to know when they needed feeding, changing or cuddling. Sleep comes with time, all babies are different, breastfed or not.

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  14. Given the scrutiny the media are under at the moment (or rather, News Corporation) you would think all other news outlets would try to behave a little more responsibly when releasing a story. This is such an irresponsible misrepresentation of what the report is actually designed to say. Personally, I never got breast feeding - I have no objection to others wanting to do it, I just didn't come from a maternal background and it wasn't something I wanted to do with my little girl. I did want her to have the first 2 weeks from the breast, but alas, being a big baby, it wasn't enough for her and by her second day in the world I was having to top up with bottle fed, and pretty soon she refused to take the breast.

    As for her sleeping patterns - if you apply the logic of the study she slept well, was happy and cried less. Ahem. My little angel is now 29 months and still does not sleep through every night (in fact, she woke between 8 - 12 times a night, every night, for the first year), she is noisy and when she wanted something she cried. That is what babies do isn't it? As you point out - its how they communicate.

    Thankfully, a lot of women will have the sense to recognise this as what it is - irresponsible media reporting, but worryingly not all will.

    What a brilliant post, and what irresponsible reporting of that study.

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  15. This is a great post as this kind of reporting confuses me - is it just naive or do these people actually believe there is something to be reported?? I'm not sure they thought about it to any great length. My fist was always great at sleeping actually, but all babies cry, and he cried plenty during his waking hours. But he's also pretty switched on and now that he's three, he talks, laughs, entertains and sometimes complains too, non stop!!. So maybe he was just communicating! My second, who is nearly 17 months old, is a bit rubbish at sleeping but, without me sounding like a boasting mum, also developing very fast, and his communication is brill! So yes, he cries too...so what??! Surely this is to do with their little minds, developing so fast, learning so quickly, instead of sleeping because they're full(and therefore have no need to ask for food).
    So how about this; babies who are breast fed will cry more, because they are developing fast and therefore know how to get what they want?? I am not anti formula, i have plenty of friends who bottle feed, as i'm sure we all do, and i do not judge them in the slightest. I know what i think is best(and i'm obviously right...!!), but i believe all parents should be able to make their own informed choice. But we should be trying to encourage more breastfeeding and as bottle feeding is obviously becoming more the norm, it does not need encouraging or defending like breastfeeding does
    So many people have commented on how happy, funny, and smiley my boys are. It's also been noted that they can both be pretty cranky at times! So that's great, the breastfeeding has obviously done them plenty of good, and they are clearly great at communicating. Job done!
    And on a final note, if my nipper prefers the easy option of downing a cup of milk, why, when i offer both, does he point at my booby and say 'This milk' ??

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